Woman reveals ‘traumatic’ results after embarking on a ‘year of casual sex’

Rather than feeling liberated, Ruskin experienced a series of distressing incidents. On her second date with one man, she says she found bondage equipment in his home. He allegedly “proceeded to use [them] on her without prior discussion,” and she left.

Another encounter with a PhD student left her feeling distressed after he allegedly choked her without consent.

One night, after a drink she believes was spiked, an unnamed man took her home and had unprotected sex with her. Later, a different man allegedly forced himself on her despite her objections. Ruskin reflects that she struggled to recognise some of these moments as assaults because of the shock and confusion that followed.

She recalled how the unnamed man took her to his house and “although she was far too drunk to consent,” he “had unprotected sex with her.”

“Broken up and dishevelled”

“My mind was slow to accept that my body had been raped because of self-defense,” she wrote. “After something traumatic happens, you don’t want to acknowledge that it’s happened. You don’t feel ready to face it, or capable of admitting it.”

Instead of finding fulfilment, she says the year of casual sex left her feeling “broken up and dishevelled.” Ruskin’s book aims to highlight what she sees as the broader issues of consent and “rape culture” in society, urging men to acknowledge and address these problems.

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