An Australian “sexuality educator,” Deanne Carson, has sparked intense online debate after suggesting that parents should ask their babies for permission before changing their diapers. Carson argues that a “culture of consent” should begin at birth, though many people find the idea confusing or impractical—one commenter even joked about needing “consent from your cat to change its litter tray.” Carson says the goal isn’t to receive a verbal “yes,” but to build early respect for a child’s body and boundaries.
By narrating the process—such as saying, “I’m going to change your diaper now, is that okay?”—and pausing to observe eye contact or body language, she believes parents can teach infants that their reactions matter. She told Australia’s ABC network that babies won’t answer verbally, but the pause creates a space for communication. Pediatric experts similarly emphasize paying attention to babies’ non-verbal cues, which can help build trust and connection.
